RE: Shapes of a Wedge

For the record, I was married for 5 years to my first wife. We were also
unable to have children. The first time she miscarried before the first
trimester. The second time she miscarried just before the second trimester.
Both were great loses. Initially it made us closer, but over time we
drifted apart, for various reasons. I felt at the time that this was God's
will. Perhaps. Many years have past, and in retrospect, I believe that my
underlying motive for the divorce was my personal need to have children.
Whether this was what God intended or just my own wishes I'll never know.
But now, I could not look my children in the face and tell them I made a
mistake leaving my first wife, because I was motivated solely to become a
"baby maker". After all, if I had not left her, they would not exist.
CHOICE is the issue, but does one choose for one's self or for the greater
good, or if one is lucky, BOTH. I believe that staying with my first wife
would only have served myself. Leaving her also served myself, my need for
children, but it also served God's greater purpose and mankind's. Who knows
God willing one of my children may one day save someone's life.

Don Perrett

-----Original Message-----
From: asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu [mailto:asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu]On
Behalf Of Robert Schneider
Sent: Wednesday, June 09, 2004 05:41
To: Don Perrett; John W Burgeson
Cc: ASA Discussions
Subject: Re: Shapes of a Wedge

CLIP:
When procreation is placed in the context of the primary purpose of marriage
as mutual love, companionship, and mutual care, then we come closer to the
teachings of Jesus and the new testament letter writers. When Maria and I
married, she was past child-bearing age: I defy anyone to argue that there
is something defective about our marriage because we are unable to produce
offspring. Eve was created from the human being primarily to be his
companion, not primarily to be his baby maker.

Bob

----- Original Message -----
From: "Don Perrett" <donperrett@genesisproclaimed.org>
To: "John W Burgeson" <jwburgeson@juno.com>
Cc: "ASA Discussions" <asa@calvin.edu>
Sent: Wednesday, June 09, 2004 6:45 AM
Subject: RE: Shapes of a Wedg

> Hi Burgy,
>
> To interject, the Bible does speak to it, in a manner of speaking. First
it
> says "go forth and multiply". Now assuming one does this, it does not
mean
> that one must be married nor heterosexual. It does mean that one must
have
> sex with a partner of the opposite sex in order to fulfill this command.
> Which only leaves the option of bisexuality for those leaning towards same
> sex. This however would then mean that one cannot be in a monogamous
> relationship, of the type that you state is intimate and acceptable.
Which
> leaves you only the option of having a relationship with someone of the
> opposite sex, for the purpose of having a child, then become gay and enter
> into a second relationship. Or vice versa. In either case it would then be
a
> predetermined NON-COMMITMENT to a relationship (marriage), which is not a
> relationship of intimacy at all. Which again brings it back to the point
> that one cannot obey God and be homosexual or bisexual. Homosexual(never
> having sex with the other sex) leaves one unable to fulfill the command,
> Bisexual(having had at least one experience with someone of the opposite
> sex, even if only for reproduction) leaves one unable to even fulfill your
> requirement of intimate relationship let alone God's. And while divorces
do
> occur, I doubt anyone would subscribe to the idea of it being intended
> solely for reproduction. Some would say, "people in the OT used
surrogates".
> Yes, but who would raise them. The two mothers, or the two fathers? The
> Bible says honor your father and mother, not father and father, nor mother
> and mother.
>
> From the beginning
>
> Don Perrett
>
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu [mailto:asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu]On
> Behalf Of John W Burgeson
> Sent: Monday, June 07, 2004 16:43
> To: mtharp@exammaster.com
> Cc: asa@calvin.edu
> Subject: Re: Shapes of a Wedge
>
>
> >>How can any Christian advocate gay marriage when the Bible (both old
> and new testament) so clearly speaks out against it? I understand that
> you are not personally advocating that position, but you don't seem to
> see such a position as contradictory to the Word of God. Please explain.
> >>
>
> Lots of material on my website, page 2, section 10, on all sides of the
> issue. Some people here get bent out of shape when I mention this stuff,
> so I will not go over already plowed ground.
>
> The issue (#1) of whether ALL same-gender intimacy is sin is one issue.
> The issue (#2) of Gay marriage is another issue. I have a position
> statement on the first issue on my website, written after a several years
> study in 2001; it is still my position.
>
> I have not (yet) taken a position on #2, Gay Marriage, although I think
> the arguments for permitting it are strong ones -- yes, "conservative"
> strong ones. There is at least one argument against it which still gives
> me pause; it is a variation of the so-called "slippery slope" logic.
> Briefly stated, if I can approve Gay Marriage, on what grounds can I
> still oppose polygamy? I have not (yet) worked through this.
>
> In any event, the Bible does not speak at all to either issue, except by
> strained interpretations. The material on my site will explain why I do
> not see scripture as speaking "clearly" on either issue. There are quite
> a number of Christian scholars, clerics and lay people who argue this
> point quite better than I can. Is Paul, in Romans 1, speaking of ALL
> same-gender intimacy, or only of the kind he clearly knew about, acts
> which took place in a pagan temple between men and children?
>
> One of the neatest example of this is a debate between Tony Compolo and
> his wife, who hold differing views on issue #1. A link to this debate is
> on my website.
>
> Scholars Wink and Mauser have written position papers on issue #1, each
> on a different side. Worth reading them both; links on my site.
>
> The issues are not easy. The temptation to just "believe what one has
> always believed" is great. I started there; I know.
>
> Best
>
> Burgy
>
> Today's quip: They told me I was gullible -- and I believed them.
>
> www.burgy.50megs.com
>
>
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Received on Wed Jun 9 15:16:52 2004