From: John W Burgeson (jwburgeson@juno.com)
Date: Mon Nov 03 2003 - 01:11:39 EST
I finished reading the little paperback on "25 rules of civility." Here
are my notes:
Choosing Civility, The Twenty-five Rules of Considerate Conduct, by P. M.
Forni, 2002. 185 pages, notes.
The book CIVILITY by Stephen Carter is a better book in many ways. This
one is sometimes a little shallow. None the less, it has value and is
recommended. The 25 rules, for example, are a good read, one a night, at
bedtime.
Here are the rules. Each has a few pages of discussion:
1 Pay attention
2 Acknowledge others
3 Think the best
4 Listen
5 Be inclusive
6 Speak kindly
7 Don't speak ill
8 Accept and give praise
9 Respect even a subtle “no”
10 Respect others’ opinions
11 Mind your body
12 Be agreeable
13 Keep it down (rediscover quietness)
14 Respect other peoples’ time
15 Respect other peoples’ space
16 Apologize earnestly
17 Assert yourself
18 Avoid personal questions
19 Care for your guests
20 Be a considerate guest
21 Think twice before asking for favors
22 Refrain from idle complaints
23 Accept and give constructive criticism
25 Don't shift responsibility or blame
Two messages of our culture are dangerous:
1 You can achieve anything if you try hard enough
2 What matters in life is to win
Substitute:
1 Doing your best is OK
2 Playing the game well is what matters most (Cubs fans – are you
listening?)
Burgy
www.burgy.50megs.com
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